Inferiority Complex - Sure Way to Dismantle It
Posted: Wednesday, November 23, 2005
by anandrahi
The nature doesn't believe in similarity. It creates every human being with a unique quality or feature. Even twins are different to each other in many ways. We need to identify our unique quality and develop it further to outshine others. Here we become superior to others. Therefore inferiority complex is irrational. If you have one unique quality that is superior to others how can you be inferior? In spite of this truth many persons suffer from the misery of inferiority complex.
The Biggest Hurdle
Mostly persons develop inferiority complex when they are obsessed with their weaknesses. They always keep thinking that others are superior to them. They often get nervous while talking to others - especially if the opposite person is talking confidently. It is difficult for them to appear before an interview board. They perspire, their mind gets clouded and speaking normally becomes a herculean task for them. Inferiority complex becomes their biggest hurdle on the way to success or progress. Fortunately they can get rid of this problem easily.
What is your Unique Quality
Write down your good qualities or plus points on a paper. Spare some time to think about the quality or ability that is better than others. And try to develop that quality as much as you can.
If you have your own views on several matters and you like to write then start writing. Maintain a diary or register for it and write daily. You can also write in the file created in your computer. You can try to get some of your creations printed in newspapers or magazines. If your voice is sweet you can impress others by polite talk. You can also learn singing. You may even learn to play on any musical instrument in case you have a desire. If you are good at making drawing or painting then shine this ability by adequate training and practice. Join an art and painting school. If you have interest in computer then learn it by joining an academy. If you love solving the sums then aim to become master of mathematics. People will definitely recognize your talent and you will be admired. It will also help you to make a good career in the field of your interest.
Miraculous effect ON PERSONALITY
It is rule of the nature that every one has something unique in him or her. When you improve its strength by regular study and practice a feeling will develop in your heart that you are better than so many other persons at least in one field. You can't even imagine at present the miraculous effect it will have on your personality. You will start gaining confidence and gradually become free from inferiority complex. Your negative thinking about yourself built this complex and the strength of your unique trait will dismantle it.
Use affirmation
According to Norman Vincent Peale, one of the greatest motivators and advocates of positive thinking in America, affirmations have immense power over our personality. We can also use them to weaken the grip of inferiority complex. Here is a good affirmation to help you to gain confidence and come out of the clutches of inferiority complex:
"I am a unique creation of God. I have many good qualities. I love myself. My positive mind will help me to attain my aim in life"
Repeat it 10 times before going to sleep and after getting up in the morning. Your inferiority complex will fly away from you in a short period.
Anandrahi
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More commentsGood article. Some very helpful information for all of us. Keep up the good work.
I don't think it is that simple. If you feel inferior, you probably are going to need a support group or therapist to help you to be motivated to stop the distructive behavior that makes you feel this way. That's why I came to this site looking for real help.I deffinately would not say Sure way to dismantle the inferiority complex I would say two ways toward.
This article describes how I overcame my inferiority complex. After divorce, injury, foreclosure and starting a new career after making $100,000 a year in my past one I was at a low point as I dove into a challenging career. I always felt shy and timid. At that emotional low I gravitated to what I've known since I was a child, which is athletics. I spent countless hours learning a new sport, swimming, and I started weight-training, which led to dietary changes. After a few months I started to like what I saw in the mirror. During that same time I read books like "The Power of Positive Thinking", and joined a networking group that gave me a tremendous amount of support. It took a serious conscious effort to redirect my thoughts. I went to church, beaches and hung out with close friends. I also started writing all the positive changes I had the power to make. Do something you've always wanted to do, and work hard to master it. It works! Become a new you.
There are up sides and down sides to this article. As has been pointed out elsewhere, by trying to excel in a unique interest to attract social affirmation, one could actually make the problem worse. If you become a good artist, you may shun socially interacting, thinking that social acceptance will come with people liking your art...this likely will not happen. Instead you will get less experience socially and make your feelings of social inferiority worse. On the other hand, one cannot come out of feelings of inferiority without building self esteem and confidence. In this sense, it is helpful to see yourself excel. It's dangerous to assume that this is all there is to the equation though.
I don't know my social strengths. Please help.
Someone who would have an inferiority complex (such as myself) wouldn't be able to solve their problems by listing their good triats. The effect of an inferiority complex causes you to think that you are (news flash) inferior! Therefore, it's impossible to think that you even have good traits (in most cases), because no matter how strong you think your good traits are, in your mind, there's always someone else who is superior.
its none of our business what other people think, stop comparing. everyone has to run their own race.
Shane is right, if someones having a serious issue with inferiority (for years) you feel so ashamed and stupid and insignificant that it actually takes a serious amount of work to figure out if your "good" at anything. Your definition of good is not the same as a regular persons because you hold yourself to absurdly high standards.Every time you mess up or something doesn't go right, you automatically blame yourself too making it worse. You might know your "good at art" for example but it doesn't help you any because you actually do not believe this to be true.I find affirmations help... even if you do not believe them at first. They have not been able to "cure"me though.Exercise also helps me most having a low moment to cheer me up. I also watch the news to see the latest tragedy which reminds me how lucky i am. In a sad way this also makes me feel guilty for having those feelings in the first place, its only a temporary fix.I do not think the writer of this article understands how this "mindset" really feels like. Bryan (the post above me) is a great example of what NOT to say to someone with an inferiority complex. Making people feel guilty because they have been SHAT on at critical periods in their lives is not the way to help someone or teach them anything.You have to break the cycle of insecurity, perception of failure (for whatever reason) guilt, and fear and helplessness that your too weak to change.Also please do not think people with inferiority complexes are basket cases. We get the fact that something isn't right. However its difficult to reprogram yourself and you can't just flick a switch. Im better then i was years ago but it takes a long time to get better. I often slide back and think judging myself so harshly will make me better at making less mistakes. I loathe myself when i hurt others or screw up and you do self destruct and slide when you screw up. This is why people seek help on sites like this.We literally need a source (besides ourselves) to tell us what is right and what to do , because we cannot possibly choose the correct path on our own.I would say anyone who truly has experienced an inferiority complex knows the crushing wave of emotions that just wash over you and ensnare your whole perception of the world around you.This article omits this reality, and oversimplifies the issues.U are absoultley right. this article doesn't have the cure because it is not something an article can give. i am a tenneager who is currently experiencing the inferiority. trust me it is going to take me another ten or so years to break the cycle. this article is good in one sense but shade from canada is right. i always knew it in my mind that this was the way. it took a bit of time to find ths issue. i was looking into the mild deppresssion for a long time before i heard about this. i admit to pretty much every symptompss that has been suggested above. so hard to fix myself because i feel constantly bad. i agree to the fact that this article dangerously simplify the issue because when i first seen it i knew it wasn't right and don't get me wrong i don't hate this article but like it was said by the shade from canada this guy wh wrote this article doesn't have the mindset of a person who has inferiroity complex.
Couldnt even finish reading this bull $%&*@$%&. Maybe this approach works for some people but as I was reading it started sounding really corney which undermines my ability to use it. I think that recovering from a inferiority complex means loosing your social inhibition, self conciousness and self doubt and becoming more normal with regard to these aspects of our personality. Not becoming more of a freak by writing nice thing about ourselves and keeping little self help journals. Its all psycological and it only exists when you let it exist by letting it occupy your mind. Best of luck to everyone struggling with this problem.
If only it were this easy.
So, everyone in the comments has been saying how this isn't enough. Then please tell me, what IS?! I need to know what to do, where to go. I'm 24 years old and so lost. My inferiority complex has taken over my life. I feel so much shame, all the time. I do have what OTHER PEOPLE would consider "good" qualities (they say I'm good at art, photography, writing, etc.), but to me, they're not good. I don't know know why.
Everything I do feels flawed. Everything everyone else does looks perfect.
PLEASE TELL ME WHAT TO DO! :(
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